Wednesday, 3/21/18 — From “Hear” to Eternity

A few days ago, I received a phone call that went roughly like this:

CALLER: “Hey, Buddy?”
ME: “I’m sorry; you have the wrong number.”
CALLER: “Is this Tyco?”
ME: “No. You have the wrong number.”
CALLER: “Is this [blah-blah]-8591?”
ME: “No; it’s 8571.”
CALLER [annoyed]: “Are you sure?!”

Playing back this 20-second anecdote in my head, this is an encounter with someone who was wrong, was informed he was wrong, who persisted in his wrongness, and then — when presented with evidence of his wrongness — became angry with the messenger.

Does that sound familiar?

Today’s Gospel selection from John is another example of Jesus in that scenario, where he tries to teach his audience that they are slaves to sin. They rebuff this insight and argue against Jesus’ insight into the Father: “Our father is Abraham.” Jesus replies, “If you were Abraham’s children, you would be doing the works of Abraham. But now you are trying to kill me, a man who has told you the truth that I heard from God; Abraham did not do this. You are doing the works of your father!”

In fact, twice in today’s Gospel does Jesus note “you are trying to kill me” . . . and, as the Lenten season draws to a close, we know how that ends. (Or, more correctly, we know the beginning of the ending of that story.)

Now, I’m not suggesting that my brief encounter with a stranger on a phone is in any way comparable in magnitude to the trials faced by our Lord and Savior. But, rather, I note that this unwillingness to listen illustrates a facet of humanity that’s been present from . . . well, not Day One, but certainly sometime shortly after Day Seven. Ignoring God’s unquestionably true insight, Adam and Eve chose to close their minds and open their mouths, and the penalty they paid is one that’s a burden to us all.

For years, I struggled while talking, desperate to fill the silence with any kind of noise, even if that meant a lot of “um”s or “er”s. “Um, I was wondering, er, if you could, um, that is . . .” It was a really annoying. And one day I had an epiphany: I didn’t need to talk. At least, not all the time. I can take a moment of quiet to formulate what I’m going to say, and then say it. If I’m in the middle of a sentence and I realize I need to clarify or add a salient point, I can pause. Silence isn’t deadly. In an absolute worst-case scenario, my speaking voice has these long pauses that make me sound like William Shatner — an actor who’s more successful than I’ll ever be.

As I grew older, I realized much of what I “had” to say didn’t really need to be said at all . . . or, at least, not at the moment I conceived of it. It’s okay to be quiet . . . to — dare I say it? — listen.

You’ve probably heard the adage that God gave us two ears and one mouth because we should be listening twice as much as we talk. But think about other aspects of listening. Our sense of hearing is one of the few that continues to absorb and process information even when we’re asleep. (See 1 Samuel for an amusing take on how God uses this fact to touch us: “Speak, LORD, for your servant is listening.”)

Even before they’re born, babies can hear while in the womb. (I remember startling our son by talking to him in utero.) After they’re born, babies spend way more time listening than making noise.

During the Mass of the Sacrament of Marriage, the betrothed couple says far fewer words than the priest . . . hopefully setting the standards of listening for a successful marriage.

The Lenten season is a time of enforced quietude. We’re supposed to clear our lives of distractions, and even our Mass celebrations have musical instruments pared back.

Listening is not the absence of talking. It is an action unto itself . . . one that arguably takes more skill and courage than speaking.

Today, I recommend recalling a time when listening really made a difference in your life. Maybe you truly listened to the anguish of a friend, offering insight that wouldn’t be possible if you immediately jumped to your platitudes. Or maybe someone listened to you, taking the time to truly understand your troubles or your joys.

Then, at least once a day for the rest of Lent, I recommend really recognizing the power of listening. Ask a loved one how they’re doing, and really listen. If there’s something important you’ve been putting off telling someone who needs to hear it, humbly ask them to listen to you.

In your prayer life, make sure to include a period where you’re just open and calm with the Lord, listening for the Spirit’s insight or reflection in your life (or if you already have such a period, consider lengthening it). Perhaps listen to your own prayers with fresh ears; are you asking for that which is godly, or that which is comfortable or earthly? Reflect on how many miracles of Christ began with him listening. Reflect on how the act of listening can provide you with a chance to get closer to Heaven.

If you have eucharistic adoration opportunities in your parish, consider availing yourself of them. The silence of the presence of Christ can be awe-inspiring. Also consider the Sacrament of Reconciliation, which is beautiful with a priest who truly listens and cares.

By listening, you may hear things you don’t want to, like those who distrusted God when He spoke in front of them; also like them, your inclination may be to discount, disbelieve, or shut down the conversation. Be careful with that impulse. Understand that listening doesn’t mean agreement or acquiescence; you don’t need to agree with (say) a family member who belittles your faith. But by listening to them, you might get to the root of their fears or concerns (“I think you think you’re better than me” or “I fear you’re judging me”), which may be incorrect and correctable.

The time of Lent is almost over. Soon, the joyous din of Easter will fill the air, and — for many — our Lenten season will be discarded and soon forgotten.

But it’s not too late. We’re still in the quiet time. Don’t let this moment pass.

Listen.

Today’s readings: Dn 3:14-20,91-92,95; Dn 3:52-56; Jn 8:31-42

About the Author

Despite being a professional writer and editor for over 15 years, Steven Marsh is more-or-less winging it when it comes to writing about matters of faith. Steven entered the church in 2005, and since then he's been involved with various ministries, including Pre-Cana marriage prep for engaged couples, religious education for kindergarteners, and Stephen Ministry's one-on-one caregiving. Steven lives in Indiana with his wife and son. Despite having read the entirety of the Bible and the Catechism of the Catholic Church, he's still surprised at elements he rediscovers or reflects upon in new ways. The more Steven learns about the faith, the less he feels he knows; he's keen to emphasize that any mistakes are his own.

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18 Comments

  1. Too often when we pray, we tell God what we want or how we feel, and rarely do we ask God what He wants from us. Timely reminder Steve. Thank you and God bless.

  2. Thank you Steve. You have just reminded us that prayer is a “conversation” with God’; He has to talk also and WE have to Listen to Him. A prayer in the silence of the heart, will open the ears of our souls in listening to God.

    God Bless!

  3. I sit still to listen,particularly at Adoration,but some random thoughts distract me attimes.However,I still persist.I pray for God to grant me the grace to listen wholeheartedly to Him and be open to His word,Amen.Thank you Steve for this great reflection.

  4. Joe, the gentle reminder of listening is right on. Not only in our relationships also with the words of our savior. There is so much to know and contemplate…if we listen. Lord please help me listen twice as much as I talk. Thanks Joe

  5. Thanks Steve for this very wonderful reflection. It is good to listen to our Lord Jesus Christ after a prayer so as to get an answer to your prayer. I hope we have time to listen in this busy world of us as we are always busy rushing to make money and in most cases we even do not have the time to pray. My advise, However busy we are let us have time to thank the Lord for whatever He has done for us.
    God bless you Steve and your family for your great teachings and keep it up.

  6. I start weekly adoration with fifteen minutes of centered prayer. That is really hard for me. Just being still and focusing on a mantra causes all sorts of other thoughts and desires to do something.

  7. Hey Steven,

    Although your example at the beginning of your reflection isn’t quite right (Jesus is the one who starts and finishes the conversation), your overall point is articulated well.

    What is really interesting is the theological chess match between Jesus and “those Jews who believed in him”. The irony is the prize that goes to the winner is death, which is why Jesus is playing game in the first place.

    My question is who are these Jews who believe in him but also want to put him to death?

    Mark

  8. Very good reflection. Thank you for sharing it. The words in today’s gospel and in your reflection are especially meaningful for me right now.

    I don’t know why, but listening to God is hard for me. The thought comes to me: “I can’t hear you, Jesus”. I believe that thought is a lie, but doubts persist. I believe in Jesus, so maybe I am experiencing the same thing Jesus was pounding into his audience in John’s gospel. If anyone is inclined, please pray that my spiritual deafness be healed. I truly need the help.

  9. I recently heard something during the prayers of consercration that I had heard before but not in the way I heard it that night. How many times had I heard the words “take anddo this in memory of me?” Many times but in this night what I heard was, you take this cup and you pour yourself out for others. Yes I think Jesus was telling me know he was not just saying these words so that we could remember what he did but a command for us to do the same. For me this was a new thought and I continue to think of that revelation and what it means for my life. Listening can surprise us with new food for thought. Thanks for sharing your insight.

  10. I recently heard something during the prayers of consercration that I had heard before but not in the way I heard it that night. How many times had I heard the words “take and do this in memory of me?” Many times, but this night what I heard was, you take this cup and you pour yourself out for others. Yes I think Jesus was telling me that he was not just saying these words so that we could remember what he did but a command for us to do the same. For me this was a new thought and I continue to think of that revelation and what it means for my life. Listening can surprise us with new food for thought. Thanks for sharing your insight.

  11. Beautiful, Steven – thank you. LC thanks for the song/meditation. Todd, that thought is not a lie – we all have challenges is hearing – it’s our human-being-ness so as long as we keep trying, we keep getting closer to God I think. Prayers for you & for all of you.

  12. “in hearing”
    And Mark, maybe we have all been guilty of “believing in him and trying to kill him”

  13. Good afternoon everyone! It is really hard to take time to listen to God. I sometimes try to be quiet but my mind keeps jumping all over. When I tried hard to pay attention, I found myself talking instead of listening. Thank you Steven for this great reflection and may God bless you and your family

  14. Todd, you are in my prayers. I find that sometimes, listening to the Lord also involves looking. I believe that He talks to us in the best ways for us. Sometimes He speaks through other people. Have you ever been surprised at a time when somebody said something so meaningful to you, and you were surprised that it came from this particular person? I find that it’s often the Lord speaking to me.

    The Lord has also shown Himself to me in feelings (a priest once told me that thoughts that fill us with peace and joy come from the Lord; thoughts of anxiety and guilt come from the devil). There have been times that I just knew that the Lord was communicating with me. I also know that I have missed His communication thousands of times.

    He will reach out to you subtly. Listen, look, and feel. Tell Him that you’re having trouble hearing Him, and ask Him to communicate with you in a different way.

    And Steven, great reflection, as usual.

    Mark, I had the same question: who are these people? Maybe the ones that will soon shout out “crucify Him”?

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