Wednesday, 10/6/21 — One Simple Word to Expand Your Prayer Life

Reflecting on today’s readings, a word came to mind that may change much about my prayer life. It’s a word that I haven’t really thought of in relation to prayer before, but it seems like it could be incredibly powerful, for myself and for (hopefully) doing God’s will.

In the Gospel selection from Luke, Jesus teaches his disciples to pray, a prayer that we recognize immediately as the basis for the Lord’s Prayer. It’s a glorious and famous prayer, and it’s one that should come readily to the lips of any believer.

However, what caught my eye was a line of the Gospel before Jesus teaches this prayer. One of the disciples says, “Lord, teach us to pray just as John taught his disciples.”

In other words, His disciples were asking Jesus how to pray.

“How.” How common is that word in your prayer life? I know it’s been pretty darn rare in mine up until now. Sure, I pray for those in need, I pray to be a better father and husband, I pray my gratitude about the blessings in my life. But there isn’t a lot of “how” there.

Consider the difference between:

“Help me, Lord, to be a better husband and father.”

and:

“Open my heart and mind, Lord, so that I might know how to be a better husband and father.”

To my ears, that “how” is much more active. It’s not just leaning back and waiting for God to drop a sack of enlightenment on my skull. It’s inviting my participation.

Similarly, “Please, God, help the poor” might become: “Please, God, make me aware of how you want me to help the poor.”

“Lord Jesus, give me the strength to endure this trouble” may be restated as “Lord Jesus, help me understand how you want me to endure this trouble.”

As a final example, compare “God, thank you for the blessings I’ve received” with “God, teach me how to best show my appreciation and gratitude for the blessings I’ve received.”

Today’s first reading is the ending of the Book of Jonah. In it, Jonah is resentful that God shows mercy on the people of Nineveh after they turn back from their evil ways. He sulks, even as God offers some comfort and wisdom. The story ends before we hear of the resolution, and — for me — it’s one of the great reflective “What happens next?” moments of Sacred Scripture.

However, thinking about this tale in relation to my reflective mind today, I can’t help but wonder what might have happened if Jonah had said, “God, I still feel all this rage at the people of Nineveh, and I have such anger that you didn’t carry out your punishment upon them. Please, Lord, show me how to channel my feelings to do Your will, or how to ease my heart so I can return to being your cheerful servant.”

Of course, part of the problem with asking “how” is that it might be a question you feel dumb asking, because you already know the answer. “Tell me, God, how I might help this widow struggling to feed her children” feels silly if you have surplus money or food. You already know how to help them; give them food or money!

In that case, I’d argue the foolishness you might feel is the Spirit trying to reveal to you a truth you already know. “Please, God, help this widow and her orphans” lets you off the hook: “I sent my thoughts and prayers to those in need; job done!” But interjecting that “how” puts you on the hot seat; many times we know what needs to be done to do God’s will, and it’s a matter of finding the fortitude to actually to do it. That’s where the “how” might prove invaluable.

In some cases, there may not be any additional action outside of further prayer or contemplation. That’s still concrete action! But we should be careful not to close our minds and hearts off to other spiritual insight. After all, the disciples asked Christ how they should pray!

In other cases, that “how” can open our mind to the possibilities of the Sacraments. How do I be a better father? Well, the Sacrament of Holy Communion can bring me closer to God, reflecting on the Sacrament of Marriage can bring me strength and understanding to the Christ-forged aspect of my relationship that brought my child into the world, and the Sacrament of Confession is a great way to get right with God if I’ve messed up along the way.

Not every prayer can be rephrased to include a “how,” and there are many problems in our lives that can’t be acted on with more corporeal directness. But I suspect there may be many more opportunities in our lives to invite the Spirit to act by showing our willingness to act.

“How.” It’s a simple word — only three letters — but it may well change my entire outlook on prayer. If it’s not already a part of your reflective life, consider making it so. Like Jesus’ revelation of the Lord’s Prayer, that simple idea may be the first step to a whole new realm of having your prayers answered.

Today’s readings: Jon 4:1-11; Ps 86:3-4,5-6,9-10; Lk 11:1-4

About the Author

Despite being a professional writer and editor for over 15 years, Steven Marsh is more-or-less winging it when it comes to writing about matters of faith. Steven entered the church in 2005, and since then he's been involved with various ministries, including Pre-Cana marriage prep for engaged couples, religious education for kindergarteners, and Stephen Ministry's one-on-one caregiving. Steven lives in Indiana with his wife and son. Despite having read the entirety of the Bible and the Catechism of the Catholic Church, he's still surprised at elements he rediscovers or reflects upon in new ways. The more Steven learns about the faith, the less he feels he knows; he's keen to emphasize that any mistakes are his own.

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23 Comments

  1. Beautifully said THANK YOU, I have never thought it like that, “how to”… awesome.
    MD

  2. Amazing – so inspiring and I had never thought of it either. I will be changing the way I pray also. Thank you so much. A.

  3. Our Father art in heaven who created the universe and all things in it, including the earth and its abundant resources that we need to live out our earthy existence,
     
    Our Father who art in heaven who created us and has given us all the opportunity to pursue eternal life through Jesus,
     
    Our Father who art in heaven who longs for us to turn to him and to establish a deep daily personal relationship with Him, Jesus and the Holy Spirit,
     
    Our Father who art in heaven who has blessed us with the gift of the Holy Spirit and blesses us with the Spirit’s seven gifts, when we ask for them in sincerity,
     
    Our Father who art in heaven who loves us all unconditionally despite our sinful nature,
     
    Our Father who art in heaven who never gives up on any of his children,
     
    Our Father who art in heaven who showers us with abundant blessings every day without our even noticing,
     
    Our Father who art in heaven who punishes us out of His loving kindness to help save us,
     
    Our Father who art in heaven who purifies our hearts and minds through daily trials and tribulations so we can glorify him through our response to these trials,
     
    Our Father who art in heaven who is loving, kind and generous,
     
    Our Father who art in heaven who loves us so much he lets us decide whether we want to love Him back,
     
    Our Father who art in heaven who is just, compassionate and merciful,
     
    Who art in heaven, (I can’t even begin to imagine how wonderful heaven will be!)
     
    Holy is Your name
     
    Your kingdom will come to be on earth as it is in heaven,
     
    Please provide for us today our daily physical and spiritual needs,
     
    And please forgive us for our sinfulness as we forgive those who sin against us, who hate us and mock us for our faith, who try to deceive us, and who physically and mentally harm us,
     
     And please help us to avoid all temptations and deliver us from the evil one,
     
    For You are all powerful and glory and majesty is with You forever and ever.

  4. Thank you Steven. Today’s reflection on bringing “how” into the mix puts us in the driver’s seat to act with purpose…to think deeper into our own consciousness. This is the way to pray…and hope…in the way Jesus taught us. Brilliant again SM!

  5. Powerful. My one word was too short. Powerful, because I was looking for a way to deepen my prayers and there it was….ask how.

  6. Thank You Steven for this insightful word to use during prayer! It brings a new a new message to our Lord when answering our prayers. I pray I listen and hear!

  7. I love this reflection Steven.I often think that my prayer requests for others lack depth, but by asking how God wants me to respond to their needs,is a much more meaningful way of petitioning.
    Great work.

  8. Thanks Steven for your powerful and inspiring reflection. You clearly touched many hearts…thanks for stirring us how to pray. And yes, often we know what we ought to do, but struggle in “finding the fortitude to actually to do it”. Lord, open our hearts and minds to listen to your word and give us the strength and peace to do the things we OUGHT to do. Amen.

  9. Most interesting! I’ve never put “how” in my prayers. It’s always been “do this for me”, “fix this for me”, “please make this happen”. Now I see where I should be praying “Show me how I can help cause this to be”. Thanks Steven!

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