Thursday, 25th February — Ask!

As the younger sibling, I assume (know for sure) I was the favorite child of my parents!! While my mother tried being a just parent and sided no one and gave equal punishment to the children, my father seemed shamelessly biased towards his “best child”— ME!

Like all dads, papa always has a soft corner for me ( more then others) and I would get away with asking permission for anything as a kid — may it be shopping or a bit of extra cash or a fancy snack!! While my brother grew smarter and tricked me into asking my dad for his benefit for treats and stuff, I had no qualms (and still do not) about asking my dad anything— he is always there to help me out ( so is my mother, but with additional mother advice).


In todays reading , Jesus says

Ask and it will be given to you;
seek and you will find;
knock and the door will be opened to you.
For everyone who asks, receives; and the one who seeks, finds;
and to the one who knocks, the door will be opened. 

Which one of you would hand his son a stone
when he asked for a loaf of bread,
or a snake when he asked for a fish?

It is as simple as that, however, God will give it to us– may not be exactly the way we would want or appreciate it. But we will get it! And yes like my brother if you feel like you need a mediator for a petition, there is always Mother Mary and the saints!

While this lent, my faith already seems to be wobbly and a lot harder to keep resolutions being away from home! I sat at the church ( yes! churches are full fledged with social distancing and covid precautions) and listened to the bilingual celebration of Eucharist in Hindi ( national language) and English wondering why I feel so anxious about minor setbacks and need to focus on my 3 aims of Lent 2021– praying the daily rosary, fasting from gossip and procrastination and alms giving to the needy!

It is hard to stick to resolutions while explaining to every non Christian about Lent and why I am chasing of to church at all my free days or abstaining from meat! It gets tiresome, trying to stick to self discipline, even at prayer when I could sleep in some more or feel weird to pray for longer then my usual 3 minutes! But I know I will push myself and so this week I ask God to give me the resilience to continue to dig deep in my faith and inner self!! So should you, like my brother said to my innocent 7 year old mind.. “all you have to do is ASK!”

P.S. Today my Papa turns 75 years and he celebrates 36 years of marriage to my mom! Kindly keep them in your prayers for a healthy and happy life!

Prayer:

Lord, I am struggling in the first week of Lent. I have failed some resolutions and feel ashamed and silly. I ask you to help me and guide m to stand here and put my petition and will power at your feet for a stronger and more disciplined me! Help me Lord to feel my faith and crush the anxiety!! May my Lent ahead may be fruitful with your blessings. Bless mama and papa with good health and a happy life ahead!

Amen.

About the Author

Hello! I’m Dr Analise Maria D’ Mello, (MBBS, MS obgyn, DNB) from the beautiful state of Goa in India. I was born and raised in a Roman Catholic family, learning my prayers, catechism and Catholic values from my parents and grandmothers. I am currently practicing as an obstetrician and gynecologist for 3 years since my residency. I often speak on anti-abortion to college students and married couples, and counsel distressed pregnant women with appropriate medical advice. I am part of the St Luke's Medical Guild of Catholic Doctors in my state providing services in prisons, and Lenten and advent retreats for medical professionals and their families.

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14 Comments

  1. Thank you Dr. Analise for your sharing. It also hit me on the same failure during the beginning of this Lent. I pray to God to be able to struggle and survive in victory through the guidance of the Holy Spirit. Praying for your boldness in teaching about pro-life in the University you are teaching.

  2. Another personal and relatable reflection, Analise – thank you! Wishing your dad a happy milestone birthday, and your parents 36 more happy and healthy years!

  3. I’ve read the above Bible verse last night, and it was just at that moment when I needed it most. God indeed is good, how could He withhold giving us good things when we ask Him? Thanks for sharing. God bless you and your family!

  4. Thank you for the reflection and reminding us to persevere inspite of our back sliding and failing to keep our resolutions. We ask the Lord to continue holding our hands and leading us.
    A happy day indeed to and for your dad on his birthday and more blessings for your parents as they celebrate their wedding anniversary.
    Be blessed.

  5. Thanks Analise for your reflection. I wish your parents good health and God’s blessings in abundance. Be blessed.

  6. Thanks for a wonderful Lent connected reflection. Happy days to your parents and their milestones. They are blessed with a wonderful child. Peace with you.

  7. Birthday blessings to your father and congratulations to your parents! As I read your comment about trying to explain Lent to non-Christians, I realized for the first time that in your world Christians are in the minority. How much more difficult that must make it to stay true to your faith! Your story is inspiring to me and will undoubtedly change the lives of those around you.

  8. Dr. D’ Mello, a big happy birthday to your father, and a big anniversary to your mother. May the God continue to bless you and your family — I just said a prayer for you and your family!

  9. Your reflection reminded me of when I was little, the youngest of seven children. Alone with my mom, I asked her who was her favorite. In line with my expectations she replied that I was. When I went to brag to my other siblings they laughed at me and said they were her favorites. Of course I returned to confront mom that perhaps I wasn’t her favorite. She responded “You are my favorite. Each one of my children are my favorite”. Thank you Lord that we are all your favorite and can rest in You. Happy anniversary to your parents and happy birthday to your dad!

  10. I too am struggling with my Lenten resolutions…especially with patience! let us continue to pray for each other and ask god for His strength. Happy Anniversary to your parents!

  11. Another heartfelt reflection Anilise,thank you for opening your heart and sharing your struggles.I know that I and many others can relate!
    Happy Anniversary to your parents and Happy Birthday to your father, I will remember them in my prayers today.God Bless you.

  12. Thanks Analise for an inspiring reflection. How many times did we receive something because we asked. Think of something you could have had if only you asked. God is waiting for us to ask! God bless your dad on his 75th birthday and your parents on their annivrsary!

  13. Dear Analise,
    Thank you for that reflection. As someone already responded ” sharing your struggles “.
    We all struggle in some fashion or another.
    Thank you for being so open, honest, sincere, and just being a struggling human being like the rest of us.
    Happy birthday to you Pop and anniversary to your parents.

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