Thursday, 25 November 2021

People will die of fright
in anticipation of what is coming upon the world,
for the powers of the heavens will be shaken.
And then they will see the Son of Man
coming in a cloud with power and great glory.

I am internally dying of fright.. fright that my family will fall apart… fright that the reports will show something new in dad .. fright that I am unable to concentrate on anything… fright that we will miss the flight or skip the doctors appointment cause of my mismanagement! .. I am living in such constant fear that it hurts me more and more as I drifted away from the Lord!

Last week as we flew across the country to meet the best oncologist for the same, I was wrapped in doubts and stress, being the doctor child , all medical decisions are blindly dumped on me! A serious and huge responsibility that I am still scared of!! While I ran up and down the hospital to get all my dads tests sorted in an ocean of humans affected by cancer, the sight of a child hopping along their parents and smiling while having lost all their body and scalp hair to chemotherapy made me wince at my own selfish attitude! As the kids smiled without any fear, I felt silly for being so scared!

Amongst all of this ,I managed to get in touch with a colleague from my medical school residency days who happens to work in the same department and unit! While he is helping me out with everything, I feel more guilty than ever, for losing my faith in this all.

My prayer life is a wreck and I am anxious almost every minute, making me procrastinate work that actually needs to be done and forgetting stuff or worse snap at my mother!

On my flight to the doctor I opened “the screw tape letters” by CS Lewis and when I read how Wormwood was advised to separate the patient from his mother, I could see exactly what happened between me and my mom, the fright in both of us and the anticipation of the worst, but we know there is a God! and he decides everything!! and shall return ……

PRAYER:

Dearest Jesus, I am sorry for being stressed and pushing away from you in moments of crisis. Help me to accept you as My ROCK and rely on you for every need of mine. Thank you for all the wonderful prayers from across the world and help us all strengthen our faith in you every day!!!

AMEN!

About the Author

Hello! I’m Dr Analise Maria D’ Mello, (MBBS, MS obgyn, DNB) from the beautiful state of Goa in India. I was born and raised in a Roman Catholic family, learning my prayers, catechism and Catholic values from my parents and grandmothers. I am currently practicing as an obstetrician and gynecologist for 3 years since my residency. I often speak on anti-abortion to college students and married couples, and counsel distressed pregnant women with appropriate medical advice. I am part of the St Luke's Medical Guild of Catholic Doctors in my state providing services in prisons, and Lenten and advent retreats for medical professionals and their families.

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20 Comments

  1. Amen! You echo a lot of what’s going on in a lot of our fears and stress situations nowadays. Thank you for sharing the reminders that you came across. My story is different but the same, as my husband, now with dementia, always said. God’s goodness is everywhere. He’ll never abandon us. It’s His Promise!

  2. He understands your (ourfears) and gives us strength and wisdom to face any and all of our challenges. May He surround and carry you and your family during this period, we pray.

  3. That you can coordinate and write is more than enough strength that you can imagine Analise. Hang in there. God is with you…with us always. Your strength gives us strength. May God’s perfect healing hand continue to rest on your dad and all those going through one phase or the other. God bkess.

  4. Praying for your Dad for quick healing and recovery, praying too for strength and grace for the family at this most challenging times🙏🏼✝️

  5. Hang in there Ms Analise. Emmanuel has to be your fall back in these scary times. Blessings and healing to you and your dad. ✝️

  6. Dear Analise don’t be too hard on yourself. Its tough when the sick is a loved one and you feel helpless. But God is there in the midst of it all. Just remember the power of the name of Jesus. When you are fearful and in doubt, just call upon his name. May God’s healing hand be upon your dad. I pray for divine intervention in his illness, and may God’s comforting arms embrace your entire family at this time.
    God bless.

  7. Thank you Analise for being so candid about your fears and feelings about your life citations. Praying you find the strength to put this all in God’s hands! You’ve got this! ❣️🙏🏼❣️🙏🏼

  8. Dear Analise,it’s hard to see the wood from the trees when facing a family crisis.Panic sets in and it’s hard to know which way to turn.
    God is with you and we in A Catholic Moment community are with you in our thoughts and prayers.

  9. May the Lord bless your Dad and touch him with His healing grace. May He bless you and your family with His peace.

  10. Fear can be a dangerous emotion…it can overtake and rule our lives. Keep God at the forefront of your day…He is great. Thanks for your honesty 🙏

  11. Annalise,
    A couple of verses from Roman’s came to mind as I read your reflection. They say,
    “In the same way, the Spirit too comes to the aid of our weakness; for we do not know how to pray as we ought, but the Spirit itself intercedes with inexpressible groanings.
    And the one who searches hearts knows what is the intention of the Spirit, because it intercedes for the holy ones according to God’s will.”
    I always find these verses comforting knowing that God, of course is going to know what’s going on in our minds, including our distractions, worries and preoccupations, but He also knows our hearts. He knows why we may not be able to pray as we ought..
    He knows why your prayer life is a wreck right now. In our weakness He is our strength.

    Hope all goes well with your father.

  12. Dr. Annalise, I think doctors have a much more difficult time when a loved one is I’ll. They see so much more of the worst case scenarios that their minds automatically go there. You are blessed to have trusted colleagues to help you and family to support you. God I’d understanding and forgiving of your fear and distraction. Remember Isaiah 40:31 But those who wait on the Lord shall renew their strength. They shall mount up with wings like eagles, they shall run and not be weary, they shall walk and not faint. My prayers are with you and your family. 🙏

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