Friday, 10-27-16 Choose Love | Choose Life

Have you ever experienced the peace of heart and mind that follows when you choose love? You know, when you reach out to another with love in your heart without any expectation that they return your love. I assume you have at some point. This type of love is deeply gratifying. However, sometimes it is very hard to love so freely because after all, we carry within ourselves an inherent tendency towards sin. Sometimes we just can’t love that freely.

Divine Love

Yet, we are immersed in a field of divine love. This field is the source of all healing, all goodness, and all life. This field is God’s universe, a universe that holds us together. God’s love is the milieu in which we live, yet, we are also inclined towards sin – a movement away from love. It seems a no brainer, when we choose love all the peace and happiness our heart’s desire will follow. When we choose sin pain will follow. So why do we choose against love and life by choosing sin?

The Flesh

One word provides the answer – flesh. We live in the world of the flesh, and given this we are bound to its laws. Unlike Jesus and his mother Mary, who were born without the stain of original sin, we are born with certain inclinations to sin. These inclinations set into motion the separation that exists between God and the creation created in his image – human beings.

Our first parents committed sin while living in Paradise, sin that was born out of their childlike innocence and a desire to more fully understand God’s universe. All they knew was perfect love, so how could they have understood the ramifications of choosing the forbidden fruit? Their humanity, with its human wisdom, limited their awareness of such treason against God. Yet, it was wisdom they sought when they partook of the fruit.

Human Limitations

As John the Baptist spoke – “He must increase, but I must decrease.” , we must also decrease so that Christ can increase in us. Only then will we experience freedom from sin and flesh. This is not to say that our flesh is inherently evil, after all, it can be used for Christ. However, our flesh, our humanity, is inclined towards pride, judgement, and vanity. If it were not then there would be no struggle on earth, humanity would already experience the fullness of love God offers.

Every time we choose love we work with the flow of God – the divine milieu we live in. This divine milieu is all around us. Think for a moment about the air you breathe. Air is everywhere and nowhere at the same time. You cannot point to where air “is”. Yet, air fills every part of the world you exist in. Inside every one of your cells air nourishes and gives life. Yet, you cannot readily contain air. Have you ever tried to put “air” in a jar so you could point to the jar and say “there is air”? Its only container is earth – the planet God created for us to live in. God’s love is limitless in our lives – more limitless than the air that surrounds and nourishes us.

Choosing Love

Recently I watched the mini series titled Jesus of Nazareth directed by Franco Zeffirelli. This series is basically a portrait of the life of Jesus through the lens of the Gospel of Luke. It was beautifully done and it stirred my heart many times. I highly recommend watching it. As a side note I will share with you that this series portrayed Mary of Magdalene as a repentant prostitute. Nowhere is the Gospels is she referred to as a prostitute. The prostitute narrative began in the Middle Ages and it is false. Mary Magdalene was a loving person who deeply loved our Lord and she deserves the credit due her.

As I watched Jesus of Nazareth I couldn’t help notice how much Jesus loved. Every move he made, every interaction he had was out of love. Even his moments of anger or frustration were born out of love for the Father. Jesus lived in the fullness of the divine milieu of God’s love and he allowed it to permeate his entire being. I often found myself pondering why I can’t love like Jesus as I watched this series.

Choosing Love

Oh, how many times I have withheld love out of fear, pride, or vanity only to experience the limitations that follow. It’s so easy to say to ourselves that “I” am here, while “you” are there. Our sinful nature calls us to this place of division and separation. Jesus on the other hand naturally drew himself to others, obliterating the gap between them. He chooses love every time because he is Love. Jesus the man, had the ability to meet God’s children at their deepest pain. When Jesus met them the hearts of the sufferer and Jesus merged together, the sufferer and Jesus became one.

While we may discount Jesus’ ability to love so deeply and attribute it to his sinless nature, we must also remember that Jesus was fully human in addition to his full divine nature. Jesus experienced the same temptations we do. This is why we can and must surrender to him, why we must decrease as he increases within us. Jesus will show us the way to love more because Jesus fully understands human suffering. And most importantly, he understands human suffering in light of God’s divinity.

Our human nature dictates that we will choose the opposite of love from time to time and we will surrender to sin. Jesus the man revealed to us the power of submitting to God’s love. Jesus the Christ stands at the threshold of our surrendering, illuminating the way through the waters of life for all eternity. And Christ is the one we can trust in.

Divine Love Heals

Living within God’s divine love is a reality of our humanity. Finding our way through the waters of life into heaven demands that we move through Jesus Christ. As we move through him we will find that all of God’s children exist within this love. If you would like to read more about God’s divine love I invite to read one of my blog posts here: Divine Love

God bless all of you – see you next week Friday! – Carolyn

Sacred Heart of Jesus – have mercy on us.

Father God – consume us.

Holy Spirit – enter into us.

Mother Mary – pray for us.


Today’s Readings: Romans 7:18-25a; Psalm 119: 66, 68, 76, 77, 93, 94; Alleluia Matthew 11:25, Gospel Luke 12:54-59

About the Author

Carolyn Berghuis MS, ND, CTN is a best-selling author, inspirational speaker, traditional naturopath, and free-lance Catholic writer. Carolyn is currently pursuing an MA in Pastoral Theology at Saint Meinrad Seminary and School of Theology. Carolyn also holds a BS in Mathematics, a MS in Holistic Nutrition and a doctoral degree in Naturopathy. www.CarolynBerghuis.com

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8 Comments

  1. Am Really Full With Joy And Sadness Because,we Sometime Refuse To Apply God Love In Our Heart,but Pretent,forceful To Be Bad Which Is Not God Ways.Let Love Fully With Our Whole Heart,mind.Thank You My Dear,nicholas From Ghana

  2. You say, we carry the stain of original sin within us. We don’t! The sacrament of baptism cleansed that blot from our soul and being. We are weak and we sin, but not because of depravity or original sin. Man has a free will and a constant challenge with temptations vs holiness. Choosing love is certainly the right course, but don’t muddy our failure to love with the notion that we are inherently weak.

  3. Thanks for your hopeful reflection. It’s easy for me to wallow or think how I’ve failed, yet again, to do the right thing. Your reflection offers the hope of Christ, coming to him daily for help. I’ve experienced pain in doing the right thing in my marriage, but I can attest that the tremendous relief you spoke about sweeps over me when I overcome my fears of rejection and choose to speak with honesty and love. Jack, the way I was taught was that we have concupiscence, a lingering tendency to sin, even after baptism. Thanks and God bless all.

  4. You are correct, through Baptism we are forgiven of all sin and we become a new creation indeed. However, the baptized still sin. It seems to me that the key to understanding our tendency towards sin is found in our first reading today:

    “For I take delight in the law of God, in my inner self,
    but I see in my members another principle
    at war with the law of my mind,
    taking me captive to the law of sin that dwells in my members.”

    According to the Catechism “certain temporal consequences of sin… as well as an inclination to sin”, remain within us once we are baptized. It is only through Jesus Christ that we can move through such inclinations into new life. Thank you for allowing me the opportunity to provide some clarity here. I did update my reflection a bit and I hope my words are more clear as a result. Be blessed Jack.

  5. Thankyou, Carolyn, especially for the “postscript”; St Paul’s words today really spoke to me, and your reflection clarified much of what I was thinking through. Rather encouraging, isn’t it, to know that a great saint like Paul, knew the same struggle .

  6. A bit off topic but there are a few matters in our faith that I don’t completely agree with, even as a practicing Catholic. One of them being Infant Baptism. There is nothing biblically that requires the church to baptize infants. I only had my children baptized to appease my mother-in-law and to initiate the process of Catholicism for my children. I do believe that we need to come to a conviction on our own re: our faith and belief in Jesus being the Way, the Truth and the Light. This cannot be understood by an infant. It’s my personal belief that the unborn, babies and those who are unable to intellectually understand the gospel, will automatically make it to Heaven. Jesus says we need to be like little children in order to enter the Kingdom of God (Mt 18:1-6, Mt 19: 13-15). Those verses don’t specifically state that children go to heaven, but they do show God’s heart toward children. Which leads me to my point about Carolyn’s reflection…Scripture is clear that children and the unborn have original sin. We have the inclination toward sin. It’s a possibility though that Christ’s atonement has already paid for the guilt of these helpless ones for all time. Children are not able to make a conscious, willful rejection of Jesus Christ. As an adult, given this free will, Lord, please help me to strive to always choose Love, to love as Jesus did. Thank you, Carolyn, for building my faith with this insightful reflection!

  7. Hi El,

    Isn’t it interesting to know that Saul (Paul) was baptized after after Jesus Christ reached out to him, not before. This reveals to me that God has plans for those who are not yet baptized and even for those who vehemently appose him. Jesus reached out to the unbaptized Saul when he was persecuting Christians, and yet, Saul became a key instrument in the salvation of the world. They key here is, as it is with us, Paul’s “Yes”. His baptism is noted in Acts 9:19.

    Be blessed El!!!

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