If Your Brother Sins Against You

If Your Brother Sins How difficult it is to choose which reading to focus on today, because all three readings for Mass have to do with the same subject, including the Responsorial Psalm.

The first reading from the book of Ezekiel is very similar to today’s gospel:

” You, son of man … you shall warn them for me.  If I tell the wicked, ‘O wicked one, you shall surely die,’ and you do not speak out to dissuade the wicked from his way, the wicked shall die for his guilt, but I will hold you responsible for his death.  But if you warn the wicked, trying to turn him from his way, and he refuses to turn from his way, he shall die for his guilt, but you shall save yourself.”

What a difficult passage this is to hear.  Many of us have family members and friends who have fallen away from the church, and are sometimes leading immoral lives.  It is common for young couples to live together without being married, many young people drink and do drugs, and have their babies out of wedlock, or choose abortion.  Many adults file bankruptcy because they lived too far above their means, others cheat on their taxes, commit adultery, or reject worshiping God.  Seniors re-enter the dating scene again later in life, after the death of a spouse, and now have the highest growing rate of sexually transmitted diseases of any other age group. A lot of seniors live together now too, instead of getting married, so they don’t lose their pension benefits.

Many of us have committed some of these same sins, but we finally saw the light and returned to Jesus and his holy church, and now do our best to live moral lives.  Sometimes parents feel a bit guilty because they used to commit the same sins that their family members and friends are committing now. They say, what right do they have judging others, when they used to do the same things? However, according to the first reading for Mass today, and the gospel, it doesn’t excuse us from attempting to deter others from committing these sins. 

We turned from our sins, but will they if they believe they aren’t doing anything wrong? Our modern society has come to accept many sins that would make our grandparents and great grandparents, ashamed of us.

In the gospel today, Jesus goes through the process of the right way of addressing those who are in a serious state of sin.  We aren’t called to do this over every little venial sin, but the more serious ones we are definitely called to do what we can about it.

The Lord said to try talking to the person alone first, if that doesn’t work, have two or three go with you to talk to him, (we are supposed to tell it to the church next but in most situations this is impossible to do, unless you are in a very small parish and know the priest well, and he is willing to do this.)  Saint Monica did do this and it helped her son, though.

Notice that Jesus said it is ok to treat a sinner like a Gentile or tax collector, and that whatever is bound on earth, will be bound in heaven.  (That should scare all these politicians that pass laws contrary to God’s laws.)

Many people will quote the words Jesus spoke of ‘do not judge, lest you be judged’.  However, we are called to love the sinner, but hate the sin.  Today’s gospel is also Christ’s command to judge the serious actions of a person, though, but not every little venial sin a person commits.  Jesus also spoke of sins that are bound on earth and in heaven.

But, Jesus also said where two or three are gathered together to pray, then he is in their midst. The Responsorial Psalm today said, “If today you hear his voice, harden not your hearts.”  This is a good thing to do, to pray for the conversion of those in a state of serious sin.

The second reading from the book of Romans today had a beautiful verse and it would be a good way to end today’s reflection on a more positive note:

“… the one who loves another has fulfilled the law … whatever other commandment there may be, are summed up in this saying, namely, “You shall love your neighbor as yourself.  Love does no evil to the neighbor; hence, love is the fulfillment of the law.”

The scriptures for Mass today make it pretty clear that in order to genuinely love another person, we are required to talk to them about their serious sins, and pray for their conversion. 

Many people are afraid to alienate their family members and friends if they mention their serious sins, or lose their relationship entirely.  But, if we don’t, then we run the risk of losing their relationship for all of eternity.  When weighed against the backdrop of eternity, which of the two is the more genuine love?  Our temporary good relationship with those we love?  Or their love, gratitude and friendship for all of eternity?

 

 

Sunday Mass Readings:

Ezekiel 33: 7-9 / Psalm 95 / Romans 13: 8-10 / Matthew 18: 15-20

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Hello! My name is Laura Kazlas. As a child, I was raised in an atheist family, but came to believe in God when I was 12 years old. I was baptized because of the words that I read in the bible. I later became a Catholic because of the Mass. The first time my husband brought me to Mass, I thought it was the most holy, beautiful sense of worshiping God that I had ever experienced. I still do! My husband John and I have been married for 37 years. We have a son, a daughter, and two granddaughters. We are in the process of adopting a three year old little girl. We live in Salem, Oregon in the United States. I currently serve as the program coordinator for Catholic ministry at a local maximum security men's prison. I‘m also a supervisor for Mount Angel Seminary’s field education program, in Oregon.

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  1. Thanks be to God for the miracle of His Word. Laura, I have been bless by this message. May God be gracious to you & bless you richly. Happy Sunday

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