Thursday, 11th February 2021 — I am awesome!

As an Indian woman, at 32 years, I am, in ideal circumstances, supposed to have been married to a man picked by my parents , of the same profession, caste and religion, have minimum of 2 kids of my own and work as a mother and professional. I am supposed to dress in a certain way and place my family as the ultimate priority in my life!!

Alas. I am neither married nor in a relationship, nor am I making babies of my own. I have moved to all different parts of the country to study and work and travelled more than my entire family has together! I am able to adapt with a new environment and cuisine with no fuss and definitely make friends every where I go!!

Todays readings made me laugh , from the description of how every man needs company so God made woman to the fact that a mother just begged of Jesus to set her daughter free. We as humans are always tied up in relationships. While I managed to attend this Sunday mass and a confession, I realised how everyone and everything seemed to imply to me that I need to find a partner and marry !! ( besides my mom and dad )

Marriage to me is a major commitment, similar to our faith. While I can see and hear how hard it is and watch so many of my friends separate or divorce and watch the companionship dissolve! I came to conclude, that the most important relationship I can have is with myself and my faith with God!

We often forget to tell ourselves how awesome we are on a daily basis and reach out to self help gurus for the same advice which Jesus has given us ages ago! We are daughters and sons of the Almighty Father!! Why should we fear any thing that comes our ways!!?!! While I do get extremely anxious about a test or exam or new unknown situation ,I have this voice in my head that says ” keep calm .. everything will be fine” and it is fine!

Often we let family or work take a priority over our own health or daily habits of prayer and worship ! We need to step back and readjust and focus our life on things that matter. While I was the only student who did not travel home this weekend, I stood up and refused to work on a sunday case with my boss as I yearned to meet the Lord and I finally did!!! It is not a sin to put ourselves ahead at times and make us feel better but it helps us to be a better version of ourselves so we go around spreading a faith and Christ like behavior.

So everyday when you wake up this week, smile and tell yourself ” you are awesome cause you are made in the likeness and image of Him! Cheers!”

Prayer:

Thank you Jesus, for this wonderful day and life! Help me to appreciate your miraculous power through every deed and human I do and encounter. Forgive me for being needy and ungrateful and under appreciative of all the blessings I recieve! Bless me with wisdom.

Amen

About the Author

Hello! I’m Dr Analise Maria D’ Mello, (MBBS, MS obgyn, DNB) from the beautiful state of Goa in India. I was born and raised in a Roman Catholic family, learning my prayers, catechism and Catholic values from my parents and grandmothers. I am currently practicing as an obstetrician and gynecologist for 3 years since my residency. I often speak on anti-abortion to college students and married couples, and counsel distressed pregnant women with appropriate medical advice. I am part of the St Luke's Medical Guild of Catholic Doctors in my state providing services in prisons, and Lenten and advent retreats for medical professionals and their families.

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13 Comments

  1. As an Indian woman, who didn’t get married/have kids until well into my 30s, I can relate! Thanks for another lovely and genuine reflection, Analise!

  2. Terrific reflection and thanks as always. Unlike you I have always followed a rather conventional path but have learned that it is good to diverge from the conventional as you see fit. “My Lord and my God, thank you for this wonderful life and good health.”

  3. Analise,
    Your reflections are very often personal and down to earth. It seems that your relationship with God is too. Good for you. Keep that relationship strong and continue to inspire us with your words. And believe that you are where God needs you right now.
    Your reflection today reminded of the words I proclaimed at mass, just a couple of weeks back, as I was lector that morning: “The unmarried woman or virgin is concerned about the work of the Lord, how she can be holy in both body and spirit. But the married woman is concerned about the affairs of this world, how she can please her husband.…”

    Peace

  4. As a woman of God who is coming out of a relationship where I put both my physical and spiritual health at risk, I thank you for your thoughts. I needed to be reminded that the relationship I need to focus on isn’t the one I have with a Jesus…He will see me through. Please pray for me, the transition is not easy, but I CAN do all things thru Christ who strengthens me! I always look forward to your weekly article. I am elderly but you are teaching Me!

  5. Great reflection..thank you! Enjoy your single self and journey. I am divorced..no regrets of getting married or getting divorced ..there is so much l have learned along my journey.

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