Be Like Jesus

Jesus smilingHow can we be like Jesus? After all, he’s Jesus Christ – son of God, consubstantial with the Father. How could any human being ever be like Jesus? Yet, in today’s gospel Jesus tells us that every disciple will be like his teacher. (Better choose our teachers wisely…) In light of these words we are reminded of an important fact; if we strive to become disciples of Jesus Christ then we will be like Jesus in due time if we keep seeking him.

Since you are reading this reflection you and I both know you are seeking something. There are millions of websites you could be on today, yet, you are here reading about Jesus. All who seek find my friends, the one you seek wants you to be kind and patient with yourself on your journey home towards him.

The Next Step

So now what, where do we go from here? How do we become like our teacher? How do we become like the One who is the greatest teacher of all time? How can we be like Jesus? Well, our teacher, Jesus Christ, gave us the first step in today’s gospel. You see, Jesus always sets us up for success.

Jesus instructs us to take the wooden beam from our own eye first. Yes, we must first find the healing we need so that we can see clearly. How do we do this? Where do we start? I believe we start by looking within and listening to our inner voice. Do you speak kind words to yourself? Do you love and appreciate the beautiful creature you are? Have you forgiven yourself for past behavior and wrong-doings? Remember, you are created in the image of an all loving God and this offers eventual perfection. Yet, all of us must take the steps necessary to reach perfection. We must finish the race strong!

Self-Love

Let’s talk about self-love. You see, you can’t love others until you love yourself first. If your internal voice is constantly belittling you, criticizing you, vilifying you, telling you that you are not good enough, not smart enough, and/or that you are an unworthy sinner forever sentenced to a life of wretchedness, how could you ever fan the flames of the divine light God has placed within you? Your internal light is flamed with love – the fuel the Holy Spirit wants to shower you with.

So about those nasty words and thoughts that keep running the plays inside your heart and mind – they are all lies my friends. Yes, we have all sinned, we have all fallen short of what God created us to be and, until we reach the perfection of sainthood we are called into, we will continue to fall short. Alas, this is the price humanity pays for the Fall. Yet, we are invited to move towards perfection and Jesus told us that we will become like him when we become his disciple. Yes, we can be like Jesus!

The only difference between the saint and the sinner is that every saint has a past, and every sinner has a future. – Oscar Wilde

Let’s Run the Race Like Paul

Don’t you just love Paul! Oh how I want to meet him someday. I totally love this guy. In today’s first reading Paul tells us that we have all been entrusted with a stewardship – we have all been given gifts that God desires we share with the world. When we discover our gifts we are then called to run the race like an athlete! This means we must take the steps necessary so that our gifts come into full bloom.

I believe one of my gifts is writing (something I never thought I would ever be able to do by the way). How do I know this? It’s simple. When I learn I have touched another human being, when I see that my written words has helped another on their journey towards God, my heart expands with love. You see, I want to be like Jesus too. I have a long way to go; however, with his help I know I can be like him.  In light of this desire I will continue to cultivate my writing skills and ask God to use them for his glory. After all, I want to be like Jesus and allow God to work through me.

Back to Self-Love

One of the things I have learned on my journey is that I can’t feel the love others have for me when I speak words to myself that are not congruent with love. For example, if I tell myself I am a terrible, un-inspired writer I could never feel the love others offer me when they read my words and comment about them. Such negative self-talk stops the flow of love because they are lies planted by the evil one. Acknowledging our gifts is an act of humility my friends. Our gifts were given to us to share with the world and we must cultivate them out of love for God. Then out of love for others, we must humble ourselves and receive the love they extend towards us.

On my journey I have had to forgive myself (numerous times!!!), forgive others, and take the steps necessary so that my gifts could be used for God’s glory. I have had to learn how to love and appreciate who I am as God’s daughter. I’m far from done by the way – lots of training is still required. Paul is a tough coach isn’t he! However, I’m committed. On your journey you will likely need to do the same. You too are called to love and appreciate who you are as God’s son or daughter, a beloved child with much to give the world.

Not all of us can do great things. But we can do small things with great love. – Saint Mother Teresa of Calcutta


I have written about Self-Love in Chapter 14: The Language of LIVE Within The Nine Faces of Struggle my book, Understanding the Jesus Code. So please allow me to share with you an excerpt from this chapter in today’s reflection.

SELF-FORGIVENESS: AN EXPRESSION OF SELF-LOVE

You must love yourself before you can love others. While at first blush this statement may appear a bit cliché, it is an essential component to your emotional well-being. As we discussed earlier, it has been estimated that the average person experiences somewhere between 50,000 to 70,000 thoughts per day. While this number is up for debate, what is not debated is the fact that every human being has thousands and thousands of thoughts every day! Some of these thoughts are statements you say about yourself. Of these thoughts, some of them are true in the eyes of God, while others are lies planted by the Evil One with the sole intention of separating you from receiving all the glory God has for you.

You know you are speaking truth to yourself when your thoughts are congruent with God’s vision of who you are, a perfect and lovable creation. You are his child, a child of the one true King, and therefore you are special, unique, and perfect just the way you are. Thoughts that are loving, kind, and compassionate toward yourself and others are thoughts from God, anything else is a lie and in need of transformation and release. Additionally, thoughts that find their root in God promote a sense of internal well-being, peace, and happiness, which you now know from earlier reading have a profound effect on your physical, emotional, and spiritual well-being.

When your internal tape player repeats messages that are in alignment with God’s vision, you experience thoughts of truth, life, and light. In the presence of such truth, every cell of your being exists in harmony with Love itself and is therefore divinely supported. Much like a lie-detector test, your body will not be deceived by wrong self-talk. This is why we are programmed to seek happiness and not heartache. As your internal tapes play words of truth, every cell of your body, heart, and soul experiences the vibration of God’s love. In this environment, you become strong and vibrant. You then share this frequency with the world. In a nutshell, you can’t send love into the world when you internalize words in opposition to love about yourself. Remember, thoughts are things, and given this, they profoundly affect you.

Through forgiveness of false beliefs, you begin the internal healing transformation necessary so that you can become filled with the internal love God has for you. Remember, love and love’s companion emotions cannot occupy the same space in your heart that opposing emotions hold. Love cannot be present when anger is in your heart. Peace cannot be present when fear is in your heart. Hope cannot be present when despair is in your heart. Either you have love in a particular space in your heart, or you have some opposing emotion. If you find yourself speaking internal words that are self-deprecating, mean-spirited, belittling, and even possibly hateful, I recommend you write those false beliefs down and begin with them first. They have no business in your heart, and it is time for them to go.


I hope you learn how to love yourself like God loves you. He delights in you and created you as a lovable and adorable creature. I hope you learn how to be like Jesus on your life journey my friends. May you forgive and love as you experience the life God has for you! – Carolyn

Sacred Heart of Jesus – have mercy on us.

Mother Mary – pray for us.

Saint Paul – pray for us.

 

Today’s Readings: 1 Corinthians 9:16-19, 22b-27, Psalm 84; Luke 6:39-42

About the Author

Carolyn Berghuis MS, ND, CTN is a best-selling author, inspirational speaker, traditional naturopath, and free-lance Catholic writer. Carolyn is currently pursuing an MA in Pastoral Theology at Saint Meinrad Seminary and School of Theology. Carolyn also holds a BS in Mathematics, a MS in Holistic Nutrition and a doctoral degree in Naturopathy. www.CarolynBerghuis.com

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16 Comments

  1. Carolyn you are a great inspiration, love reading you’re reflections. God Bless you and all the great writers on a Catholic Moment.

  2. Nice reflection again. With your writing today I can already start the day enthusiastically. God bless and continue on creating some. More powers and praying for you. I am Cj, a seminarian, here in Manila, Philippines.

  3. Carolyn, you are actually using your gift.. may you continue to inspire us in other to be like Lord Jesus. I am Banige from GHANA in West Africa. whatsup me on +233507465595

  4. Thank ur for today reflection,that is what we lack today to love ourselfs ,that put as in suicidal,drug abuse,divorce,murder,trible race etc.let’s relook our internal feelings.kenya

  5. Carolyn, thank you for sharing your gift. Your writing keeps me glued to the page! I especially liked that you even added a quote from Saint Mother Teresa. Something that has helped me to identify the wooden beam in my eyes is by reading the Gospels one chapter at a time & reflecting on the life of Jesus. May God continue to Bless you & all the writers on ACatholic.org abundantly. Peace be with you.

  6. I am truly inspired by your words. You have helped me see myself through the eyes of Jesus. Thank you Carolyn for sharing your gift of love. I am Sonia from Virginia.

  7. This is one of those reflections I can not read enough. Thank you Carolyn, this is beautifully written and has so much wisdom. I pray to God that He will remove the negative untruths that are present in my heart and mind.

  8. I always feel more peaceful after reading your posts. Thank you. One question: can you share with readers how you keep joy in your heart In times of deep personal despair of those we love?

  9. Thank you Carolyn, for this assuring reflection. Starting the day with this reflection gives me the assurance of a more beautiful day that I am going to behold. Love is the powerful word that guides our journey in life, not only with our lips but with our hands. God bless you for sharing your talents with us!

  10. I needed to read this today. Thank you for allowing the Holy Spirit to use you for building His kingdom. God bless you!!

  11. Carolyn,
    You really hit some sore spots for me today, and I needed to hear it. I’m very self-loathing and likely self-hating too. I rarely forgive myself for anything, even small things. It’s a regular routine for me and has been for years; and yes it certainly has affected my ability to love others. At times, even in my home with my family I am a man alone in a strange place. Thank you and God bless you for speaking to ME and helping me face a big, ugly weakness that I hope I will overcome–with love of course!! Thanks again,

  12. I was looking for Sunday’s reflection and came across this one. I was meant to as it reflects and confirms all that was said to me when I went to Confession this morning.
    I just want to say Thank You.

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